Getting divorced is a life-altering change. Your finalized divorce marks the end of one era of your life and the beginning of another. You want to move forward with enthusiasm and hope, but the stress of your divorce might feel like it’s holding you back. First of all, this is completely normal. Second, we can help. Here are four ways to move on with life after your divorce.
- Learn to be still.
After your divorce, you are probably going to do some soul-searching. This is an important phase for healing. Think about what you really and truly want from life.
One of the best ways to get in touch with your inner-most thoughts is to be still. Whether you meditate or just sit on your couch with no electronics or distractions and clear your mind, this stillness can help you find the path that’s truly right for you. It’s important that you refrain from judging yourself or your thoughts while you think about what you want.
After major life-events, it’s common to discover that what we wanted yesterday isn’t what we want today. When this shift happens, it’s important to decide what you truly want from life and how you’re going to get it. This can mean completely new behaviors, habits, and reactions to other people.
- Take time for yourself.
Self-care is extremely important to your wellbeing, but especially so after a traumatic event like a divorce. Take time to nurture and care for yourself every day. Even if it’s just 10 minutes, that time you spend addressing one of your needs does wonders to help you heal from your divorce.
Make your self-care time special. Ask yourself what you truly want to do, what would bring you the most happiness; then do it. Remember, this doesn’t have to be a major time commitment – just ten minutes will do the trick – but don’t ever skip taking care of yourself.
- Let go of negativity.
After your divorce, you may feel negative thoughts or emotions. The simple truth is negativity will just weigh you down and hold you back. Nothing constructive and wonderful has ever come from negativity. If you want to move forward, if you want to put your divorce squarely in your past; you have to agree to let it go.
Still, even when we want to let go of our negativity, it can be challenging. The best way to start to let go is to acknowledge those negative thoughts or feelings from the past, then release them. For example, “I used to be angry with my former spouse, but I don’t want to be angry anymore.”
- Remember to laugh.
Sometimes, we take life so seriously, particularly when we’ve just been through a stressful situation like divorce. Finding ways to incorporate humor into your day can help you lighten your mood. Whether it’s watching comedies on TV, laughing at your friend’s story, or being able to laugh at something silly you may have done; the addition of genuine laughter to your day will help you recover from your recent divorce. As they say, laughter is the best medicine.
We’re Here to Help
If you’re going through a divorce or have recently been through a divorce, The Alsandor Law Firm is here to help. Our family law team is here to answer any questions you might have about your Texas divorce. Give us a call today at (713) 352-3506 or contact us online to learn how we can help you today.