With fall and back to school time approaching, many children are preparing to enter or return to the school classroom. While this time poses challenges for even the most stable of families, those reeling from a recent divorce many experience additional challenges and stress.
There are several things divorced parents can do to help children adjust to and thrive in school. First and foremost, don’t allow your feelings or actions to produce unwarranted anxiety in your child. Parents who constantly verbalize a running commentary of all the unknowns and possible problems they or their child may encounter not only harm their own psyche but also that of their child.
Going through a divorce often arouses feelings of insecurity and loss of control which may manifest in a variety of ways. While, as a parent, it’s natural to feel some degree of fear or concern over your child’s return to school many of these fears are often unwarranted and are not something with which your child needs to be concerned.
When it comes to matters related to the children, regardless of personal feelings and current circumstances, parents must come together for the kids’ sake. While rising above feelings like hurt, resentment and anger can be difficult; it’s also necessary when there are children involved.
Kids need to know they can count on both parents and that both parents are equally invested in their education and school activities. Likewise, parents need to ensure they are on the same page when it comes to homework, disciplinary issues and school events and sports.
Children often crave routine and consistency, both of which may be lacking while parents sort through divorce matters. Parents who are able to set aside differences and focus on their children can help ensure they raise happy and well-adjusted kids.
Source: The Huffington Post, “Back To School 2012: Teachers Reveal Parents’ Biggest Divorce Mistakes,” Natasha Burton, Aug. 14, 2012